One day I read Sis Dolly in the Drum Magazine. There was a question whereby the born again married man was saying to Sis Dolly "I think my wife has demons when she wants sex". I was not surprised because maybe he was never told that sex is good for married people. All he grew up hearing is that sex is evil, dirty and wrong and it is not good for children of God. Well! elders you should explain it to children that it is not right for single people. Sex is good for married people. We grew up told about sex as devil's thing and that it is wrong. Now I'm old enough I know it is a gift from God to married people. The wrong teachings about sex are popular to Black people and when their born again children get married they do not function to the junction. They hold back because they still have that mentality that sex is dirty and demonic. I think God want married people to share to the fullest, satisfy each other and love one another unconditional. If you are married you should know this "The husband should fulfil his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control." [I Corinthians 7:3-5] [God created sex for marriage, and it is a good thing.] Even if it means scroll on the table if it is what satisfying your husband it is good. Some young women just get married knowing the old teachings they got while they were still single. Some elders do not even take initiative to tell them before marriage what they must do to satisfy their husbands. They go to marriage and struggle alone. When they go home for a visit their mothers do not even bother asking how sex is. The mission of Pastor Khadide was good for those who went straight into the marriage without being told or taught anything by their mothers or aunts. I love what other cultures do, they take the whole night before the wedding ceremony teaching a girl how to treat a man in bed. I find that right because they know she cannot just know everything without experience or being taught. Elders must be honest sometimes so that we cannot hear the demon question again.
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I also think that sex is good as it was created by God, but only for married people. I think people should be taught at a tender age to respect their bodies, and try by all means to keep them pure. Culture can also play a very important role in those teachings. For instance if a boy (or man) impregnates a girl (or a woman) then there is a penalty to pay, and it is also an embarassment to the family. People should go back and ask themselves what our forefathers did to keep themselves out of sexual immorality. People should not let the so called Western civilization get to their heads, meaning this independece thing that is going aroung especially with women. Women should know that their second home is with their husbands,and they should reserve their bodies for marriage because a man will only value a woman whom never slept around.
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